Lacebook: Lolita Social Network

Original picture from Lacebook

Since last, a new social networking site for active lolitas has sprung up: Lacebook- Lolita fashion snaps.

Lacebook is a platform for lolitas to share coordinates and thoughts, in the form of photos added to a public or private photogallery, and blogposts posted to a personal blog on your profile or posts in a small forum. It is only possible to join Lacebook if you have received an invitation from a person who is already a member of Lacebook- and this person must also have received an invitation from a member, and so on. The invitation is given by asking a moderator for a code for a specific lolita (including name and future username of the lovely lady/bro) and then passing this code on to the aspiring Lacebook user.
The invite system, though kind of slow and probably only getting more and more heavily stressful for the moderators and administrators as the site grows, probably keeps out spammers and creepy lurkers, and as such I think the system is a good idea- Though I hope they will find a way of setting up the system as an automatic feature. Experience tells me that sites that needs a large amount of manual activity from the administrators to run smoothly, tend to die out as they become uninspired to do tedious tasks, like handing out codes to people.

Apart from the above, the site of course has a bunch of small hiccups like any new website would have- Only moderators are able to customize their profile with a cover photo, for example. Apart from this, the site is very well run, and I think overall it is a great idea to have a Facebook-like site where you can make status updates and easily browse through gallery upon gallery of creative coordinates and make comments to each photo.

What I am not OK with, though, and this is my only major critique point- Is that you are able to "rate" peoples' pictures(At least the ones the user does not choose to make private, because that is also an option.) With a click of your mouse you can rate an outfit on the scale of 1 to 5, without having to take the time to leave a comment. This feature might be very handy in the sense that you can give a person a quick compliment without having to sit down and type out why a coordinate is great. Sometimes giving a reason for why a coordinate is great can be hard- it just looks great, yo! But in this case, it is not just a "like" feature, like the one Facebook has. The rate feature also pretty much gives you a "dislike" feature- 

1 star, well: You suck!

Do you see my point? I like the quick and easy browsing ability that Lacebook gives you- It is quicker and easier than the former primary outfit-platform that we had, Daily Lolita, and the invite system protects us from trolls, creepers and spammers, but on Daily Lolita you had to type out a message to the lolita whose outfits you were judging, which meant that constructive criticism was shared. The rating system makes it too easy to be the judge of a person's outfit without giving them a reason for the critique, and ways in which they could improve. You should always take anonymous opinions dealt out on the internet with a grain of salt, but I see how some people with softer souls could be hurt by happily sharing a coordinate that they themself liked, just to receive a number of 1 star ratings- The equality to being "boo'd" off stage.

In conclusion: Lacebook is great and very innovative.

 It is quick, easy and effective, the way the internet-users of today like it! It has the potential to become a very popular social platform for lolitas all over the world, to share ideas, outfits and thoughts, especially if the forum finally takes off. All it needs is the option of better customization of your profile, and maybe an online "Meet-up Planner" and the option of making your own groups- Unless I have overlooked that option somehow. Please correct me if that is the case. 

Oh, and please; Remove that rate function. It really doesn't do the friendliness of the site any good. 

Thank you.

A New Life-Chapter, A Frilly Rebirth, A Reborn Blog

I just experienced sort of a "lolita rebirth", you could say.

And that is what this post is gonna be about. Ultimately. But first, Here's a lot of personal stuff.

Since last year, a last pile of things have been thrown at me; enough that it almost feels like a decade, and I know that I have become a different person since then. I barely recognize the young, frilly girl who started this blog!

Since then I have returned to Denmark from the states, and shortly after settling in in my new home in the other end of the country, I decided that it was time to pack up my life and move into my own place. I have made myself a comfortable home, a mix of retro 90's stuff (a fancy expression for old electronics from when I was a kid and given to me by my grandparents so that I can keep up with the outside world) and beautiful antiques, just the way I like it. I like my furniture to have a bit of history- It's fun to imagine who must've been sitting in my couch before a poor student decided to bury it in books and homework. 

Since I moved out it feels like time has been flying past- Summer came and went, and I don't remember half of it. I guess I went to a meet-up or two with the girls. At least that's what the pictures in my Facebook album tells me- and I finally got to meet up with my local lolita circle, too! Truth be told, I was kind of worried that I wouldn't fit in. You know how rumors can be. I was told that the girls in the circle up here would be less engaged in the fashion, and more of a cosplay bunch, and as much as I admire talented cosplayers and how they are capable of turning fiction into reality, I cannot sew a button back onto a shirtcuff to save my life!

The rumors were quite wrong. Yes, most of the lovely girls and guys are into fictional culture- But the "fiction" that they are into are TV-series are mostly fandoms that I am absorbed by as well, and their humor is as wacky and dorky as I like it! We had a wonderful and hilarious day in "The Old Town in Aarhus", a small old-timey town inside the second largest city in Denmark with people in period costumes (We fit right in.. Well, that's what people seemed to think), and we had a great bunch of fun in the new 70's section, recognizing stuff from our grandparents' homes. Well, I guess that's another way of getting to know each other! I cannot wait to meet up with them again. I have been considering setting up a "Thor 2" cinema meet-up, so I guess it's gonna be very soon.
Moral of the story? Lolitas are, and will always be, a diverse bunch! We're not seperated into groups of weaboos and classy girls- Don't listen to rumors. Ever. Unless there is a chance that you're gonna get hurt.

Since the meet-up in Aarhus, I've pretty much been living the life of a person locked in a cabin in the woods, when it comes to my lolita life. I've had plenty of social interaction, but it's all been revolving around my new life as a university student. I got into the local university, and will be spending the next 5 years studying history- I will preferably end up with a degree, with Italian renaissance and Leonardo da Vinci as my special field. This first semester is one that I just have to live through- It's a shared semester with a bunch of other kind-of-relevant-but-kind-of-not subjects that we just have to learn- economics, politics.. if I were a pokémon, those would be the Squirtles to my Charmander. Marx and I are never gonna be friends- his theories are way too complicated.
The constant parties in between studies should be very welcome breaks from all of this- but if you're like me, they're really not. I'll never be fond of going out at night, squishing through packs of drunk youngsters trying to get to the bar, and purchasing over-priced drinks.

 I miss my picnics and my skirts.. And that was when the BTSSB sale happened. 

And I fell in love all over again. I hadn't worn lolita for months, but I decided to treat myself, because hey, do I deserve it!? I've evolved so much this past year; I got a job, I'm a university student, I got through my first school project. Frankly, I've done pretty darn good. And here I am. I've become a frilly grown-up!

I never purchased anything from the BTSSB sale, actually. I probably would've, a year or so ago- It's cheap brand, after all! But I went for a gorgeous infanta dress instead. The one in the top picture. 

Why is this an important point? It's actually quite simple. I've evolved above caring what anybody else thinks. I thought I didn't care before, but now I recognize that I did. And maybe I still do a little bit, but in a different way. I don't care about brand or offbrand, the way I did before, when I was kind of influenced by the general consensus in this fashion, that brand is supreme. Brand really doesn't matter- what matters is spending your money on stuff that you actually love. And currently, I'm kind of bored with what the brands put out- But very impressed with the originality that the Taobao brands show! You go, little chinese brands! You go!

When it comes to wearing lolita in my daily life, among "regular people", I used to be a rebel. 

I wore lolita because I could, and sometimes because I wanted to insist on my right that I should be able to, no matter what! Even if it made other people uncomfortable. I still think it is silly, but now I recognize that it's more difficult for some people than others to deal with the extra attention.

 Now I'm truly wearing lolita for me, in spite of what others might think. 

Because I think I look gorgeous when I do, and that's when I feel my best.

 And I'm back. Not back to a regular posting schedule, as I discovered that forcing out blogposts will do no good for anyone- But I'm back.

Hello, readers! And welcome to a more freely run and more personal "Northern Star"!

Lolita Secret Santa

December is seriously my favorite month of the year. I love the warm atmosphere, the annual baking of christmas cookies together with my family, picking out a christmas tree, decorating it all together and watching the 24 episode christmas series in tv every night until christmas eve. What I also love is the annual Secret Santa tradition that my local Lolita community has made! Actually, I have yet to be able to participate. This year I can't because I'm in the US and won't return to Denmark until mid-December! But I've been looking around and doing a lot of thinking so that I'm well prepared for next years fun! This is my list for all of you Lolita Secret Santas out there, or those of you who want to shower your Lolita friend or significant other with little surprises throughout December! I tried to include something for everybody. Happy holidays!

1. Chocomint hairclips or rings are perfect for the OTT Sweet Lolita or those who just love a little sugar in their lives! Chocomint accessories are relatively inexpensive even though they're fancy and popular (Most is below $10.) 

Similar accessories can be found in this shop!

2. Cute soaps are a lovely little piece of luxury! They can be found in all kinds of shapes. My favorites are ones that look like cookies or biscuits. These days I am in love with the ones from Mrs. Brown's Bath Bakery.

3. Most everybody has a cell phone these days, so finding a cell phone charm that fits your Lolita friend's style should be easy. A dessert-shaped charm for a sweet Lolita, an elegant silver cross for your gothic Lolita friend, or one that looks like a victorian tea cup for a classic Lolita!

4. Deco'ing (is that a verb?) is very popular these days, so how about surprising your friend with a creative gift of decoden supplies? Decoden is not just an excuse for the sweet Lolita to cover everything in fake whipped cream (as much as we love that!)

 You can find Gothic and Classic Lolita chique decoden too, with ornaments like elegant roses and rhinestones!

5. It is no secret that Lolitas take time getting ready, and a pocket-sized mirror is essential for touching up make-up when you're out and about! If your friend doesn't already have a fancy mirror, it would be a very thoughtful gift!

5. Antique tea cups or picture frames are charming, inexpensive gifts! In general, going antiquing for a Secret Santa present could be a good idea, especially if your friend is a Classic Lolita with a love for the victorian and romantic. Your friend will get something unique and at the same time know that you put effort into finding something just for them! 

6. If your friend is not allergic to them, scented candles are very charming! You can find them in all kinds of creative scents, from sweet cupcakes to flowers. 

7. You knew this was coming: Home-baked goodies! Anything from cookies or macarons to a caramel apple would probably make your friend very happy if he or she has a sweet tooth. You can wrap it all up in a way that suits your friends style, with a cute and secretive note, or cut the cookies out in cute or spooky shapes!

In general, things that you've made yourself, be it jewelry, a headbow, a short-story or some kind of artwork, are always extra special! I warmly recommend sharing your talent with other people in this way, if you are in any way creatively inclined!

I hope that my list above inspired you to get out there and spread some happiness and holiday spirit! Good luck staying "Secret" until Christmas Day!
and
Merry Early Christmas!

Original Picture is by Baby the Stars Shine Bright

My very special Thanksgiving

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I'm gonna be out of town for a couple of days, like so many other people, to enjoy my very special American Thanksgiving with my host parent's family! Which sadly means that there won't be any posts on Thursday/Friday and Sunday, but fear not! I will still be writing posts while I'm gone, the old-fashioned pen and paper way, if my host parents don't succeed in dragging me away from my corner all the time, and I will start updating at my regular schedule again when I get back, which I will be on Monday!

Well, what am I thankful for on this, my official American Thanksgiving, apart from my family and friends and good health? 

I am very thankful that I got to go to the US for so long! It has helped me grow a lot as a person. My stay is soon over, but I got to meet so many wonderful people, including a local Lolita community that is so different from my own, but all very welcome and sweet! I look forward to one final adventure with you girls, if all go well! I am also very thankful that despite the fact that I've been away from my own, local community for so long, I have not been forgotten! I still have a lovely community to go home to, and I miss them all dearly!

I am very thankful that my love for Lolita is still going strong, and that it has served to fuel my interest in historical fashions and history in general, so that I am more sure than ever that history is what I want to go to the university to study, and a topic that I want to continue to pursue for many years to come! Even when I grow out of Lolita, which I probably will sooner or later, though  hopefully later, I will continue to keep a part of this lovely fashion with me, through my interest in the history that inspired Lolita in the first place.

In the smaller category, I am thankful that I recently rediscovered my love for Taobao, and that I with the help of my hostmom has lost enough weight that I can start looking at brandpieces and will not actually need the customsize option on Taobao as much! My trip to the US finally gave me the push that I needed to lose weight and become so much more healthy and happy! I feel more confident than before, and that Brand sizes are a lot more Me-friendly now than I thought they would be, is of course only a nice plus. 

I am thankful that I have accepting parents who, while they do not like Lolita fashion and would rather see me dress like a "normal girl", do not demand that I quit and they never have. I am also thankful that my host parents have been the same way during my stay! I have not had as much time to dress up as I had hoped I would, but when I did have time, I have been able to dress up to the nines with no disapproving looks thrown my way!

On a fully unrelated note: I am so thankful that I have been introduced to Doctor Who during my stay! I will continue watching when I go home! It is a lot less complicated to follow than I had thought it would be, even if I have missed about 50 or so years of the series. 

I think a Doctor Who JSK will be one of my first Lolita related sewing projects.

And last, but not least: I am so thankful that I have gained 31 wonderful followers! I hope you girls enjoy reading this as much as I enjoy writing it! You have been a great inspiration for me, from getting me to write more and get my reflections down, to reading more books and old fairytales!

I hope all of you girls will have a wonderful Thanksgiving! I will get back to preparing for my Thanksgiving trip! Hopefully it will be just as magical as I imagine!
See you on Monday!

Note:
Thank you to the wonderful Miss Lumpy/Aly for your blog, one of the many that inspired me as a Lolita, and to start a blog of my own. I am sure I am far from the only one that is sad to see you leave. Good luck in the future, wherever it will take you!

Wank Comms: "Oh No! I Got Posted!"

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Opinions are split when it comes to the so-called "Wank Communities" that haunts our fashion. Many people do not like them and try to avoid them, some people thrive on the drama that they create, and some people again use them to get their "drama fix" or to let of some steam.
But what is the point of Wank Communities? Why do they exist?
Let's use two of the more well-known communities as examples.

Behind the Bows

"Behind the Bows", or BTB for short, is a livejournal-based community which purpose is to serve as a place to which people can send in anonymous "secrets" or "confessions" that they are not brave enough to (or just do not want to) discuss with their name attached to it. Sadly, people tend to take advantage of the anonymity and send in fake secrets just for the sake of stirring up drama. BTB is also way too often used as a place for angry Lolitas to humiliate and hurt other Lolitas, which is fairly easy as they can publicly drag other people through the mud and won't have to take responsibility for their words. 

Personally, I like the concept of the community in itself. It could be neatly used as community where Lolitas could anonymously discuss lighter and "heavier" issues that we have in our international community, but the anonymity that attracts people is also what is pulling the concept apart, and has turned it into the drama-machine that it is today. It is simply too hard for the moderators to sort the fake secrets from the real ones, and to me, the personal attacks are wholly unnecessary and doesn't add anything of value to the community. 

I won't say that Behind the Bows is purely bad, though! Some secrets, even the fake ones, do bring up some interesting discussions on all kinds of issues that our community faces! 

The secrets have hidden gold mixed in with all sorts of rotten mush.

Get Off EGL

"Get Off Egl" is another livejournal-based community. It has been around since 2007 and serves as a place for Lolitas to discuss and make fun of the actions of people who come in and disturb the peace of the huge, international EGL community (and occasionally other communities). The topics of discussion can be anyone from scammers on the EGL Comm Sales to newbies who ask too many questions or people who post things that are irrelevant, strange or offensive. While the purpose of this community is not at all "noble", I think Get Off Egl serves an indirect purpose of being a secondary EGL "police". The idea of ending up on this community and getting discussed might make some people think twice about what they post and make them check the "memories" one more time. The tone on Get Off Egl only seems to get really harsh when the "offense" posted is something harsh, for example a scammer. The less hostile tone might be due to the banning of anonymous posting, which in my opinion, is worth it. I have seen people get posted for lesser things, like being a new Lolita with a not-so-perfect first coord, which is definetely a minus to me. Stay classy, girls!

How do you handle it if you end up posted in one of these communities?

First of all: Do not panic and type out something that you will regret. Close the window and complain about the post to a friend or someone else that you're close to, if you feel the need to do so. Get an honest second opinion if someone you know, and is on friendly terms with, is familiar with the situation. Cool down and reflect on the situation. What did you do to get posted? Did you make some kind of mistake that caused someone else to be frustrated or annoyed with you? If you did, you can choose to join the discussion and own up to it. Be the mature person in the conversation and do not let whatever insults they might have slung at you get to you. Do not get into an argument or sink down to their level! 

Why should you take insults from some person on the internet to heart, anyway? Especially if you haven't done anything wrong at all! If someone dislikes your coord and chooses to insult you online, well, you're not the one with the problem. The poster could have chosen to give you some constructive criticism, but chose to try and hurt you and poke fun of you in public instead. That person is not someone you want to make friends with, so their opinion doesn't matter.

You have another alternative to all of the above: 

You can choose to stay away from wank communities all together. Many people do, and getting involved in the drama is not a requirement for being a part of the Lolita community. 

Do whatever makes you comfortable!

Links to the communities mentioned in this post:

Behind the Bows 

Get Off Egl

The Fear of Ita

Many, if not all, Lolitas are familiar with the term "Ita". They might have heard somebody who was once called an Ita, they might have seen someone or something that made them think Ita, they have probably feared being Ita at some point or another. Even so, I will explain very shortly what the term "Ita" basically means: Ita, at least in the Lolita meaning of the term, is the word for something who is painful to look at. That is also, for the most part, how I see the word used in the western Lolita communities. Though not always.

The word Ita seems to have sort of gained a broader meaning to western Lolitas. Most Lolitas, and from now on I am only speaking of the western Lolita communities unless I state otherwise, will probably agree that scratchy lace, cheap fabric, bad coordination and bad designs will make an outfit "Ew, Ita!", but some people have also started to argue that Ita-Lolita can be something else and something more than that. Some people argue that a Lolita's behavior can be Ita, or that a person's physical looks can be Ita. I think that this causes some of the sad, sad secrets and confessions I see on places like "Behind the Bows" and "Pretty Lolita Confessions", where admirers of Lolita fashion state how they're too fat to be Lolita, how they're not pale like a porcelain doll, or how they don't fit into the Lolita community because they smoke or drink or swear. Some people fear to be inherently, well, Ita. 
That, of course, stretches far beyond the more usual fear of being ita that many new Lolitas who join the community shows up carrying. That fear maybe even stems from places like the secret/confession communities that I listed above, creating a bad circle. Fear, post Confession, more Ita-fear.
 Most of the new Lolitas who fear to be Ita, and any other new Lolitas, probably do proceed into what many of us think of with dread as the infamous "Ita Phase". 

I mentioned that most of them do tumble down the cliff and end up in their Ita Phase because, well, for many people it takes practice to learn how to put together proper coordinates, and not all Lolitas do all of their homework before they eagerly try to put together their first outfits. 
I know I didn't! I wanted to be a Lolita "Right Now!", which of course also means that I have an Ita Phase to be ashamed of (and I am very relieved that I deleted all of the photos). 
Ladies and gentlemen, doing your homework before trying to get started is always a good idea!

Some Lolitas think that we should get rid of the term "Ita" all together, and that it does more harm than good. I see where they're coming from, but personally I don't agree, which may surprise some of you. I think Ita is a handy short term to quickly describe an outfit that doesn't match the Lolita aesthetic, or an item that tries half-heartedly to be Lolita, but fails miserably. Think of those bad quality, shiny "Lolita" split-wigs that you could buy in departement stores for Halloween. To me, those were pretty hillarious, though very deserving of the term "Ita"! 

But "Ita" should never be a term used to describe a persons looks, personality, or be a stamp designed to deem someone a "Bad Lolita". 
"Ita" is not new Lolitas who are trying to become a part of our fashion. They still need to learn, they do not need to be shown the door for their attempts at coordinating, or to be laughed at for trying. An outfit can be "ita" and therefore need improvements, but that doesn't make the Lolita "Ita"!
Ita is not anybody's physical looks, either. You can have any skin color, any build, any shape, and still be a great Lolita.

So to sum it up: Ita does not need to be a "fear" in new Lolitas, if we just stop using it to hurt people! Most of us went through a phase when we did not know how to coordinate well, it just takes practice and getting to know the fashion! 
Ita should only be used to describe outfits or items that does not match the Lolita aesthetic and is in need of improvement, not as an attack on people, their own looks or their personality. 
Don't take "Ita" personally or let it scare you away!
That's how I see it.

Lolita ain't got no Rare Candy

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During my time as a Lolita, I've had a lot of fun checking back to this post on Parfaitdoll (Formerly known as Lolita Charm) to keep track of my "Lolita Level!"

Even though the post is very old now, I still think it is fun enough that I'd love to give it a revival here on my blog (and of course following the rules stated in the lovely Victoria Suzanne's post, except bolding the ones that apply to myself. Sorry! I hope it's ok that I share my level at the bottom instead!)

So let's go! Let me know which "Level" you are in the comments!

You’ve been to egl.
You’ve posted on egl, without an onslaught of ‘USE THE MEMORIES’ and likewise.
You’ve bought a lolita mook.
You’ve picked a favorite brand.
You’ve ordered your first item.
You’ve worn a full outfit.
You’ve worn a full outfit out in public.
You’ve worn a full outfit and posted photos of it on the Internet.
You know what JSK, OP, and cutsew all mean.
You’ve bought your first brand piece.
You know your measurements.
You know you shoe size – in American, European, and Japanese.
You know who Mr. Yan is.
You know who Mana is. (+1 points if you know his band. +2 points if you know his brand. +3 points if you know why he’s featured in every GLB. +4 if you have a shrine to him in your closet.)
You know who Maki and Asuka are. (+2 if you’ve met Maki and Asuka).
You’ve watched Kamikaze Girls. (+1 if you know the real name of this movie. +2 if you know who wrote the book this was based on. +3 if you’ve also read the manga or novel. +4 if you love the author despite his criminal record).
You own a wig. (+1 if you own more than 2.)
You own a pair of falls.
You can identify lace on the spot.
You can identify an item’s brand on the spot.
You can identify the year a dress was made by a specific brand on the spot.
You can name several different dresses or prints.
You answer stock photo requests.
You mod a lolita community.
You decorate your nails. (+1 if you wear fake nails. +2 if you make fake nails.)
You own a pair of a rocking horse shoes. (+1 if you know their abbreviation.) 22
You’ve made your own rose corsage.
You’ve made anything out of your brand dress’s waist ties.
You’ve made anything out of a matching eco tote. (+3 if you were the first one to do it, you think).
You know how to apply false eyelashes.
You know how to pronounce shirring.
You know how to pronounce Moi-meme-moitie, or Metamorphose tempes de fille.
You know a reliable shopping service.
You bid on Yahoo!Japan or Mbok.
You’ve been to a meetup.
You’ve planned a meetup.
You’ve planned a meetup with catering or more than 20 attendees.
You’ve met up with lolitas while on vacation to foreign or faraway locales.
You’ve seen a lolita fashion show.
You’ve seen a brand fashion show.
You’ve modeled in a lolita fashion show.
You’ve modeled in a brand lolita fashion show.
You wear bloomers.
You know how to make bloomers.
You tell other people to wear bloomers.
You draw lolita art, write a lolita blog, or provide the community with some sort of creative services.
You’ve taken purikura in lolita.
You’ve decorated your room/house/apartment in lolita style.
You’ve listened to lolita music.
You’ve learned kana.
You’ve learned enough Japanese to read a magazine.
You wear or own circle lenses.
You’ve been called a princess by a young child.
You’ve dressed up a friend.
You’ve convert a friend.
You’ve been in media (television, newspaper, magazine). (+2 points if it’s Japanese media.)
You’ve learned a handicraft, like jewelry making, embroidery, or sewing.
You’ve become a lolita mentor.
You’ve attended lolita events at an anime or multi-genre convention.
You’ve organized or presented lolita events at a convention.
You’ve visited a brand shop.
Trip to Japan!
You’ve dressed up and gone out alone.
You’re prepared for inclement or colder weather in lolita (coat, parasol, boots, gloves, other climate-specific items.)
You’ve learned face contouring.
You’ve made a lolita valentine.
You’ve got a lolita pen pal or online lolita friends.
You have local lolita friends.
You know how to modify clothes that don’t fit you.
You know how to dress for your body type.
You’ve been in a street snap.
You’ve been to multiple world locations of the same brand store (BABY Paris, BABY Tokyo, BABY San Francisco, etc.)
You’ve created a makeup/hair/sewing tutorial.
You’ve sold hand-created lolita goods.
You have your own lolita fashion line.
You’ve gotten a lolita haircut, style, or color.
You’ve mixed other street fashions with lolita.
You’ve thrown a lolita party/had a lolita wedding.
You’ve dressed your child/small children in lolita or kodona style.
You’ve successfully cross-dressed in lolita style at least once (boystyle for girls and girls’ clothing for guys).
You’ve lolified or made sure all the contents of your purse are cute (wallet, lipgloss, keyring, etc.)
You have a lolita pet (small dogs, cats, rabbits, exotic birds, fancy fish) or have dressed/accessorized your pet (bows or pet clothes).
You’ve dressed your significant other or dated someone who dresses in J-fashion/alternative fashion.
You’ve read Alice in Wonderland. (+1 if you’ve seen the animated movie or other variations, +2 if you’ve seen more than one variation, +3 if you own more than one variation)
You’ve dressed as Alice or another Wonderland character in lolita style, or own Alice themed items.
You’ve made something from a Japanese pattern.
You’ve found, bought, or made lolita underwear (bras and panties).
You wear lolita daily, or have gone 7 days straight wearing only lolita. 
You have lolita calling cards or business cards.You play a lolita instrument (i.e., piano, violin, harp, French horn… well any instrument really.)
You can translate yen to your country’s currency in your head. (+1 if you can convert other currencies you shop with as well. +2 if you read the news to know how the yen is doing.)
You’ve sold lolita clothing online (secondhand, egl_comm_sales).
Your article or entry has been put into the egl memories.
You take photos of your outfits/daily outfit photos.
You’ve posted to daily_lolita.
You own a petticoat. (+1 if you own more than one. +2 if you wear three or more at a time).
You’ve bought a lucky pack.
You keep a style diary or look-book.
You can put together an outfit made entirely from offbrand.
You’ve bought offbrand or non-Japanese brand.

You know why to avoid Milanoo

Adorable Admirer (lvls 1 – 20) You’ve started studying or liking lolita but haven’t taken that leap of faith yet. Good luck!

Resplendant Rufflebutt (lvls 21 – 40) At home within the land of the rufflebutts and spilling frills from every edge.

Victorian Maiden (lvls 41 – 60) A classy lolita of taste and experience, who knows her way around the lolita social set.

Starry Celebrity (lvls 61 – 80) On page six of the lolita world, you’ve risen to the ring of the upper crust.

Pretty Princess (lvls 81 – 100) Lolita royalty, truly versed in the ways of the lacey ones, the lolita princesses have achieved a special level of enlightenment.

Ultimate Lolita (Boss Fight!) (lvls 100+) Wow, you’ve gotten over 100 levels? You’re the ultimate lolita with unlimited hitpoints. That’s actually a little scary…

I'm a Victorian Maiden! Pretty good, I'd say, and still working my way up! If all goes well, I can cross off a couple more within the next half a year or so when I move out to my college dorm!